There you go; you set a goal, you work towards it, and you make it happen. I guess I try to do that as much as possible, but there are always roadblocks or excuses….which is why I am so intrigued by my good friend, Pamela Gold, who sets her mind to something and actually makes it happen. No ifs, ands, or buts. Pamela is Wonder Woman, and GETS THINGS DONE!!!! This year, Pamela wrote her own book — YUP — her own book. I am lucky to have read it in its first draft and have bought several copies of it now that it’s out (highly recommend it — buy it here). Here is an interview with the one and only Pamela Gold, enjoy!
So, you wrote a book! Tell me about this process.
I was inspired to write Find More Strength over the December holiday — the idea came to me to connect the concept of inner strength, something that isn’t as understood generally (or focused on) in our society, with mental and physical strength, something that our society is very clear and focused on… to connect with people who don’t normally focus on or prioritize inner strength, or who don’t understand the power and importance of inner strength… and help them understand how important and powerful it is… and then share clear ways to cultivate it. I wrote the intro and posted it on my blog when I got back to NYC after the New Year, and had a really positive response to it (and shared a bit on your blog about it, too!), so I decided to write the full book. And, I set the goal to finish by 1/31 — I started writing over MLK weekend, so it was really over 2 weeks that I wrote most of the book. I wrote 2,000-5,000 words a day during that period. It just flowed, fast. And then, once I was done, I met with a consultant to find out what I didn’t know about the self-publishing process on Amazon and she gave me the road map from there for the marketing, editing and publishing direction. I decided to set April 7th as the publish date and the rest is history! ha!
How did you write this book so fast?
Honestly, the book wrote itself. I don’t feel like I can take any credit for it. It is all ancient wisdom that I learned from my own studies and life experience, so the research had been done, and what I have learned and experienced just flowed out once I had the inspiration of how to frame it.
What has been the biggest surprise through this process?
Well, the whole book is about inner strength, facing our fears, being in alignment with our life purpose, being the change we want to see in the world — I had no idea before this publishing process how much fear I still had in me around putting myself out there, asking for help, facing criticism or people not getting me/ not being my people, doing things that seemed potentially ego driven… and of course, publishing this book required me to face all of that. So the last bunch of months have been sooooo out of my comfort zone, and I had to practice everything that is IN the book to be able to publish the book. I had no idea that was going to be the case. If you had asked me ahead of time, I would’ve said it wouldn’t be a big deal at all to put myself out there like this… but, turns out, I had a lot more issues around that than I knew.
So tell me what practices in the book came most in handy?
Skillfully navigating fear is a big one, and letting go of my stuff/healing when it got triggered. Of course there is a part of me that doesn’t want someone to think badly of me… so, leaving my “respectable” job running a company to be a “Spiritual Strength Coach” is hard for me to swallow. It triggers the “what will people think” fear, and I needed to skillfully get over that. Luckily, I know what to do in those situations — quiet my mind, get under it and let it bubble up and out, and send love and forgiveness to the part of me that isn’t strong enough to now give a sh*t what other people think. So, that part can heal, and I can get stronger. Because intellectually we may say we don’t care what other people think, but subconsciously, that may not be the reality because of how painful it has been in the past when people don’t think highly of us. That hurts, and if we didn’t process that hurt in a healthy way in the past, we likely have wounds around it and need to heal. So, that is something specific that came up a lot. Having to ask for help is hard for me, I don’t want to be annoying, I don’t want to add to someone’s overwhelm, so I had to practice courage and surrender around that. It takes skill to not either over act or under act out of fear! And I am not a master at this, so it really is a lot of practice and growing. And then there is anything that seems to be ego driven — I can’t stand that, so self promotion is really hard for me. I’ve had to shift it to focusing on promoting the work, which is so important to me, so I can overcome my issues around self promotion.
How has the reaction to the book been?
I am truly humbled by the number of people who took the time to read it and who have shared breakthroughs that they have had from reading it. People I don’t even know that well have shared epiphanies that have freed them from years of guilt or fear or pain. That is what all of this is about — healing — so I am grateful for the opportunity to share this. I had zero expectations around what would come of this book, and honestly felt that if even one person got something out of it, it was completely worth it, so I am feeling very positive.
What is next?
For now I am working on promoting Find More Strength and creating more free content to share this message — the power of inner strength is what leads to inner peace, and inner peace is what leads to peace in our families, communities, organizations, country and someday, world. There is nothing more important to me to work towards. I am doing podcasts, writing blogs, creating memes that I hope are inspiring on instagram (I really enjoy that!), and I am looking forward to writing more books and creating programs — for parents, kids, teens, etc. To me, the more opportunities that we have to share this information, connect with people, support the integration of these skills in people’s lives, the better… so that is what I am committed to working towards. I am also doing 1-1 coaching and speaking socially and professionally on all of these topics. Anyone who ever wants to talk to me about any of this, I am game!
Thank you, Pamela, for continuing to be a source of white light, and an inspiration to us all.